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I’m still standing. You’re still standing. We’re still standing.
There’s this falsehood that many people who are in the process of improving their self-esteem, addressing unhealthy or redundant habits, or who are thinking about doing any of these things, subscribe...
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Dismissing those childhood experiences is akin to dismissing you
Many Baggage Reclaimers are dealing with people who have an attitude of, “Yeah, I beat you, cussed you down, ignored you, tormented you, abandoned you, abused your parent or siblings, breached your...
View ArticleSet The Standard
At what point do we say, “Enough”? It needs to be at the point where we’re feeling so desperate to keep someone in our life that we’re willing to let go of everything that needs to matter to us – our...
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Forget this hinting malarkey. I’m going all the way.
I turned thirty-eight last week and while there are many takeaways from what was actually an emotionally tough but very much necessary year—and I’ll be sharing these in another post—one thing that I...
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Forgiving Me For Abandonment
As a child, it’s hard to conceive why a parent isn’t around or doesn’t treat you with love, care, trust and respect so we determine that for a grownup to behave in this way, we must have done...
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Podcast Ep.8: Inappropriate Remarks To Singles, Do You ‘Get Over’ Abandonment...
It’s that time of the week again – there’s a new episode of my podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. I can’t believe it’s been eight weeks already! Here’s what I cover in episode 8: Those...
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Life’s Trials Reveal A Part of You That You Didn’t Know Existed (& Why I’m On...
In case you hadn’t guessed already, I’m taking a break. I’m currently on the Spanish island of Majorca on our annual holiday and will be taking some more time out on my return so that I can continue...
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This isn’t love: You’re in pattern, they’re in pattern
It’s so hard when I witness someone who keeps throwing themselves in the front line of pain by repeatedly returning to a toxic relationship or not leaving it. It’s not just because I’ve done it myself...
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Advice Wednesday: Should I Let My Ex Know About My BPD Diagnosis?
Stephanie asks: One year after my ex broke up with me, I have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. We had issues; I was clingy/jealous, he was avoidant/promised more than he could keep....
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About Unconditional Love
Love can seem very complicated and painful but the truth is, it’s only like that when we use our feelings to try to control the uncontrollable. We say that we love someone and next thing, we’ve rolled...
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Podcast Ep. 88: You’re Not The Boss of Me!
Subscribe on iTunes | Soundcloud | Android On this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about making work, a business, money, co-workers, romantic partners, friends, something, the...
View ArticleRejection and disappointment are wounding when you were willing to give you up
Society has conditioned us to believe that abandonment of the self at the mere whiff of romantic interest or a potential relationship is normal. We think it’s the cost of finding love, so we’re...
View ArticleThe self-abandonment of compartmentalising other people’s shady behaviour...
Sometimes we compartmentalise a person’s behaviour and focus on our feelings or the picture we’ve painted in our mind. The back and forth with our ex continues even though they still insist that they...
View ArticleLove isn’t a reward for being a good person, and we don’t like this
There’s this really pervasive belief that everything that does or doesn’t happen in our life comes down to worthiness and effort. It’s why when we don’t get what we need, want or expect, we default to...
View ArticleSome Parents Couldn’t Be Who We Needed, and We Need to Forgive Ourselves
There are so many humans struggling due to believing, on some level, that they’re not good enough because of childhood experiences. We misunderstand painful and uncomfortable events, and they become...
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